I’m starting to wonder if the atmosphere in raiding is what’s getting me down. But I’m not sure if I’m just being overly precious and I need to learn to ignore better.
I’m the only female in my 25man team, I was the only female in my 10man team for all of Throne of Thunder and I never noticed it. Vent was reasonably mature, I didn’t feel singled out or uncomfortable with vent chatter, i.e. it wasn’t overly filthy or full of sex jokes but 25man is turning out to be different.
I ended up feeling cross last night, we were waiting and waiting for dc’d people so there was a bit of a lull in vent when out of the blue someone dropped the comment “I have a question… why does my balls sink but my dick float”. Everyone laughed then someone said “Z must not be enjoying vent atm”. Tbh I know it was fairly innocuous comment but it got under my skin so I responded in a way that I normally wouldn’t with something along the lines of “I don’t know why that sort of crap has to be said on vent”. Someone responded “she’s probably trying to imagine it”, which made me even crosser so I logged off vent completely. I stayed off for about 5 mins until I realised that the Raid leader wasn’t in skype like usual (the original members of the 10man – there are only 6 of us – are usually also in skype together as well as vent) so I had to be on vent to hear his calls. So I logged back on and muted a lot of the raiders.
Maybe I’m just being overly precious, the crap that goes on in vent isn’t actually directed at me and most of the time it’s not really filthy just the sort of stuff you’d expect from young boys – crass but not super offensive – sex jokes, talking about masturbation, who knows what else – most of the time I pretend I don’t hear it. It’s just started to get to me a bit lately, it’s fairly frequent and tbh it’s not coming from a bunch of 16year olds (well I’d assume that most of the raiders would have to be in their 20s at least), so it’s a little annoying to have to put up with immature crap from adults.
I don’t know, I guess I learn to ignore the crap that goes on. Maybe I’m expecting too much to have reasonably clean vent talk during raids. I’m guessing from watching general chat on my realm during raid times that a lot worse is being said so maybe I am being overly sensitive.