It’s another shared topic with Cinder but this time we’re stepping outside of Legion, to talk a bit about ourselves.
I’ve been friends with Cinder for a number of years after meeting her through raiding and she’s become a RL friend,(mainly, I feel, because I’ve dumped myself on her and said “you like wow, I like wow, we’re friends now” and she hasn’t had the heart to tell me to go away). We email wow chatter regularly back and forth from work (when it’s not ridiculously busy – how rude of work to get in the way of talking) and a few weeks ago I brought up (I think I brought it up – it sounds like something I’d do) whether we act the same, personality wise, in-game as out.
A large portion of my blog posts start from me emailing Cinder something about what I’ve been up to in the game and this wasn’t any different except we thought it would be interesting to write about whether we act the same in the game as we do outside of it. You can find Cinder’s thoughts here..
In a funny timing coincidence I had a wow friend comment the other day that I seemed to always want to be around people. This comment really surprised me because I don’t really feel I’m like that in real life and I’m fairly sure my closest friends would scoff at that as they think I keep to myself a lot so I guess that I must come across differently in my online life v. my offline one.
So really quickly.. what is introversion and extraversion? An introvert is not necessarily the stereotypically shy person that refuses to talk to anyone or go anywhere. It’s more along the lines of, if you were at a party, you’d tend to be over on the side talking with a few people you know really well rather than being there with the intention to meet and greet all the new people you can get to. Other traits that come up tend to be, quiet and reserved in large groups or around unfamiliar people, more interested in self-knowledge/understanding and enjoying spending time by yourself.
An extrovert on the other hand can be generalised as (and they are generalisations because everyone falls on a different spectrum) as someone who gets their energy from being around people and may get bored/sad on their own, have a wide range of friends and can feel comfortable working in groups. Funny enough, the majority of the population are meant to be extroverted but I could find way more information on introvert definitions and behaviours.
To be honest I’ve often wondered if it’s really introversion that keeps me wanting to be at home playing games or just laziness + a significant love of being alone in my pjs in front of my pc. There’s been countless social invites I’ve turned down because getting to fish, or pick herbs, or kill internet dragons really does appeal way way more than having to get dressed up and go mingle and chatter. Though the chances of me going out increases significantly with the number of gamers involved in the group. (mental note: must bug guildies to do another meet up).
In real life, I’m fairly quiet and reserved, until you get to know me and you become someone I feel comfortable with. Then you’ll see the sassy, chatterbox me but if you don’t know me I’m fairly sure you’d think I’m super quiet.
This sort of shows in raids when our mumble channel is full, I’m usually quiet unless I have something I feel needs to be said. But as I’m the healing lead in our raid team I do talk a lot on mumble putting my input on fights, healing rotations and what I think people can do better to make healing more smooth (i.e. don’t stand in the shit so we don’t have to heal you in the first place) but it’s only when mumble is down to my favourite guildies that I get noisy and chatter non-stop and basically just be me, or the me I think I really am.
Now I’m about 18months into my new job and feeling confident and familiar, I think I’ve surprised the hell out of my work mates because they finally get to see the real me on more of a daily basis, rather than the really reserved quiet person they employed (opps) and I do chatter away at them and let my rather odd sense of humour show. Not to mention that I have a pretty dirty mind which sometimes shows itself at the worst time. Luckily I’m in a relatively adult workplace where sniggering over innuendo isn’t frowned on.
Obviously there’s way more to introverted v. extroverted than the really brief description above and added to that, there’s the idea of the Myer Briggs Type Indicator which looks into what traits make up a person’ personality rather than just introvert/extrovert and comes up with 16 different combinations. I absolutely love personality testing (part of that self-awareness thing I guess) so as part of the blog challenge I took Cinder’s favourite personality test based on how I am in real life and then tried it again trying to base my answers on how I feel I am when playing wow.
For real life unsurprisingly I got the personality of INFJ. This one seems to always be what personality type I get if I take a Myer Briggs test so I’m going to assume it’s pretty safe to say this is my type; and the fact all the INFJ memes around fit me perfectly doesn’t hurt.
So what does those strange names mean and how does it relate to me?
Introverted as discussed above, tend to be reserved, quiet and have a small circle of close friends. No big surprise there really.
iNtuitive is to prefer abstract concepts rather than concrete facts and tend to focus on the big picture rather than small details. Thinking about possibilities, imagining the future and abstract theories. So pretty much.. I like to live in my own head a lot and get carried away by my own thoughts.
Feeling refers to the way of thinking about the world and basically my responses are based more on feelings/emotions and actually includes prioritising people in my decision making rather than just based on logic. I’m a people pleaser, sometimes to my own detriment.
Judging which despite the name, doesn’t mean I’m likely to sit there and make judgements on other people but I’m going to sit and think things through, and try my damnedest to plan for every eventuality.
Turbulent is an extra put in by this particular personality test – and it just means self-conscious, perfectionist tendencies and a stupidly high (my words) concern about other’s opinions. Which yeah, is me to a tee.
Some questions were easier than others to convert to a wow base but I’m pretty confident I made them work. My results were so similar to how I am IRL, even down to the percentages, so I’m not that different online and off. Except for wow Z, it skewed towards Extroverted and Prospecting rather than Introverted and Judging.
Extroverted basically means I get more energised around people, which probably helps explain part of how hyper I get on raid nights and love having a big raid around me. And why I have a large friends list that I love chatting to via battlenet. And why I love being in a group with other people whenever possible. I think the fact that I’ll try to round-up my guildies and do group content pretty much reflects that,
Prospecting (also called Perceiving in other places) basically comes down to not being as structured as judging and being more open and flexible to change. Which describes my play style more accurately. I’m open to doing new content – any and all, love coming up with and changing strats on the fly and basically a much more chilled out person on the game.
So ultimately, I think I’m pretty similar in wow and out of it. But in wow I’m more likely to be chatting with a wide range of people and running off to do group content.. if the right people ask or come along with me. I still prefer to be grouped up with closer friends or guildies.
And even then around big groups of people you’re still not going to hear the real Z. But for my really close friends on wow.. they’re probably wishing at times that I would just shut up and go do my own thing I’m sure.
So that’s a really long-winded IRL chatter, hopefully you made it through to the end. So what’s your type?